Quiet BPD is more dangerous than the classic form of the disease because it’s tough to fathom the emotional distress inside you. Instead of other reactions like ‘ fight’, ‘flight’, you’ freeze’ in the face of trauma and pain. People with Quiet BPD tend to have an avoidant attachment style many have comorbid Avoidant Personality Disorder traits. You would rather be in pain than affect other people, so you hold everything in. Your arms may be covered with scars from self-harming, and you hide them.ĭeep inside, you may feel that your emotions are wrong, you are ‘too much’ for others, your existence itself is a burden, or you don’t deserve a place in the world. You may not act impulsively, but when you reach a breaking point, you still engage in self-harming or self- sabotaging behaviors of different forms. When you are triggered, rarely do you lash out at others, but you go into isolation and engage in self-injurious behaviors. The aggression or irritation is directed towards yourself. You may not have frequent anger outbursts, but you internalize your painful emotions and struggles. You feel and struggle with all the same things- The fears of abandonment, mood swings, extreme anxiety, impulsiveness, and black and white thinking (splitting) but instead of ‘exploding’, you implode. Having Quiet BPD, however, means you ‘act in’. These characteristics describe someone who ‘acts out’. The stereotypical image of BPD is that it involves ‘dramatic behaviors’- anger outbursts, big arguments with partners. It is based on existing research, theories, and my clinical observations. The following is a synthesis of what I can find in the literature and my own conceptualization. ‘Quiet BPD’ is not an official term in the DSM, and there are various ways of understanding it. As we discuss ‘quiet borderline’ or Quiet BPD, please be mindful that it is a survival strategy, not a definition of your personality. No one has either completely ‘classic’ or ‘quiet’ BPD, or should be labeled as such. It is a matter of spectrum, rather than categorization. Instead, these categories describe different ways of coping with an incredibly painful condition- some people fight, some people flee, some people dissociate. It is not that there are four ‘different groups of people’. While there is now more awareness about BPD, most people don’t know that BPD manifests itself in different forms. Your heart is close to breaking, but you never want to burden anyone around you. Your arms and legs may be covered with scars, but you hide them. You may appear calm and high functioning, instead of ‘exploding’, you implode and collapse from within. You may not have stereotypical BPD symptoms such as frequent anger outbursts – instead you suffer in silence. Having Quiet BPD means you ‘act in’, rather than act out. Quiet BPD looks different from ‘typical’ BPD. Signs of Quiet BPD - Are You Suffering In Silence? Your ‘High Functioning‘ Facade Keeps You In Deeper Isolation.You Avoid Conflicts and Anger at all Cost.You are Calm on the Outside but Suffer on Inside.Here are some specific symptoms that characterize Quiet BPD:.
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